The Promise of Uncertainty
The promise of certainty tends to mellow down to the basic needs of love.
As children, we tend to look for cues in the face of our primary caregiver.
When the kid is unable to differentiate between the basic emotions taught to them in flashcards, they feel abandoned.
Much like a person unable to understand a word they have been reading for the longest time.
When a child feels abandoned, it's scared of not receiving love from the caregivers.
So the basic needs of love, kindness, warmth become transactional.
They give away a part of them to satisfy the needs of those unavailable parents in order to receive what's called 'love.'
Often we grow up absolutely unaware of the fact that love was never there, and that's why we seek that same from others and that sometimes leads to abusive or unhappy relations—be it in occupational, personal, or social domains.
